Announcing your pregnancy is a personal choice, and I think it is fabulous when people chose to announce right away, or wait a couple weeks or in my case wait 17 weeks. It is something to do at your own pace and there is no right or wrong time or way to announce that you are having a baby!
Announcing my 1st Pregnancy (with my angel baby Zennon)
During my pregnancy with Zennon I didn’t really know much about pregnancy and followed the “generally established guidelines” to wait 12 weeks before making the announcement. I understood it was commonly preferred to wait until the end of the first trimester just to be sure that everything is ok. So we did.
At exactly 12 weeks Max and I announced that we were pregnant and were so excited to share the news with friends and family. We were met with so much love and support, it was seriously lovely. Those of you who have followed my journey know that excitement ended abruptly at 17 weeks when we found out our son’s heart had stopped beating. Looking back now I can see that there were subtle signs that perhaps something wasn’t right with my pregnancy, however after the 12 weeks were over I dismissed my concerns thinking I was in the clear. Unfortunately for me that was not the case, as second trimester miscarriage happens in only about 2% of pregnancies.
Announcing my Pregnancy with my Rainbow Baby
Fast forward to my pregnancy with Gibson. I was a ball of nerves from the moment I found out I was pregnant until he was born. During this pregnancy I waited until 17 weeks to announce that we were expecting. In some odd way it felt like a “safe” zone, but was actually a big milestone for us. While I was still nervous I felt more comfortable announcing it then.
Before 17 weeks, it felt too much like tempting fate, and I was hesitant to get my hopes up, terrified to experience another loss. So we chose to wait, not because I wouldn’t have wanted support or because I was any less excited about my pregnancy, but more so as a defence mechanism, like if I waited the right amount of time everything would be different this time (which is nonsense but it was a coping mechanism!) it worked for me but may not be helpful to someone else.
But what was right for me may not be right for someone else!
That being said, it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t announce your pregnancy when you first get that positive test, or after your first ultrasound or whenever feels like the right time for you! The right time to announce your pregnancy, is when you want to.
As mentioned, the reason for postponing a pregnancy announcement is usually due to the higher risk of miscarriage in the first trimester. For many people if that were the case, they would want the support, love and acknowledgement that they were pregnant and that their baby was/is an important part of their lives no matter how long the duration of pregnancy. The excitement of new life matters and sharing that news should be done whenever you damn well please :).
We all make our choices knowing what is best for us individually. While for me it was waiting 17 weeks, but that doesn’t mean someone else snapping a picture of that first positive test and sharing it isn’t the right choice for them.
So much love. xoxo
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