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Anxiety During Pregnancy: Pushing a Baby out of Your ‘Downtown’

One of the biggest sources of Anxiety During Pregnancy for many women is the idea of having to push a baby out of their vagina’s.

There are many things about the birthing process that give moms to be anxiety, so today we are discussing some of the top worries that I hear about from my clients, friends and moms in my prenatal classes!

Topics to be covered are:

1. Is it going to be super painful?

2. I am terrified I’ll need a C-Section

3. I am worried that I’ll poop on the delivery table?

4. Will I make strange noises during labour?

 

You can find the first 3 instalments of our Anxiety During Pregnancy Series here.

Anxiety During Pregnancy Series. 

1. Is It Going to Be Super Painful?

 

With all the videos in the media showing women in labour, it’s no wonder many women have concerns about birth being super painful. While there is discomfort during labour and delivery it does not necessarily have to be extraordinarily painful.

It is important to remember this during labour:

The Pain is Purposeful, Anticipated, Intermittent, and Normal!

P = Purposeful. There is a purpose for your discomfort, every contraction is bringing your baby closer to being delivered.

A = Anticipated. You know that it is coming. After every contraction will be a break and then another contraction will begin.
I = Intermittent. IT IS NOT GOING TO LAST FOREVER! After each contraction is a break and when baby arrives the discomfort will stop.
N = Normal. Experiencing discomfort during labour and birth is normal, it is not something you need to fear.

Pain Vs. Suffering:

It is important to note the differences between Pain and Suffering. There can be pain without suffering.

Suffering often comes when we are resistant or dreading an anticipated pain. We may be aware that pain is going to be present during labour, but if we embrace it and acknowledge that is is a normal part of the process there does not need to be suffering.

Example: A football player continues to play despite the fact that he is going to get tackled (and being taclked is no doubt painful). But he goes on because he knows there is a purpose, he knows it is coming, it will not last forever and he knows that it is part of the game.

He is not resistant to being tackled and therefore there is PAIN but there is NOT SUFFERING.

If you can try to remember this when you are in labour it can help you to accept the presence of uncomfortable contractions but prevent any perceived suffering.

 

What if I need a C-Section?

 

We are blessed here in Canada to have the option of having a C-Section if the circumstances require it. There most certainly are times when C-Sections are mandated, however the best way to prevent an unnecessary C-Section is to LEARN AS MUCH ABOUT BIRTH AS POSSIBLE!

Whether you do your own research, take a prenatal Class (I am collaborating on with ARC Fitness to present a class on April 10 contact me for details), or hire a Doula, learning about birth is a great way to reduce your chances of having a C-Section.

When you are informed about birth and learn all of your options, you are more equipped to navigate the normal birthing process and can lessen any anxiety or fear you might have once labour begins.

Fun fact: Hiring a Doula reduces the chance of needing a C-Sections by 50%!!! (For other ways a Doula Can Make Your Birth Better click here! )

 

3. I am worried that I’ll poop on the delivery table.

 

This seems to be one of the highest sources of anxiety about giving birth. Many women are worried about their partner or health care provider seeing them poop, and it is totally normal!

I absolutely understand the anxiety but keep in mind that your Doctor or Midwife DO THIS FOR A LIVING!  You are definitely not the first person they have seen do this and you won’t be the last. In fact, chances are pretty good they won’t mention it unless you ask.

If you are concerned about your significant other seeing you poop, you can always request that they hold your hand and they won’t see anything downward.

Eating a fibrous diet, exercising and drinking plenty of water before labour can help make sure your digestive tract is working well, and often the body will actually expel anything in your bowels before labour begins.

 

4. I don’t want to make any weird noises during birth!

 

Believe it or not but making noises can actually help during labour!

When you are in labour it is likely that you will develop a kind of ritual for coping through your contractions, and often times that ritual involves noises. Noises combined with movement can help to ease discomfort and distract from labour.

When I attend births I always try to follow the mom’s lead. Whatever noises she is making, I make. Whatever type of movements she does, I do as well. By creating this kind of unity it helps mom to relax and to feel more comfortable in herself as she is labouring.

When mom feels comfortable and relaxed it helps labour to progress more easily.
>These anxieties are perfectly normal.
It is common to have anxiety about labour and birth during pregnancy. If you are having worries or fears, talking about them is usually the best way to ease your anxiety.

These anxieties are perfectly normal!

 

It is common to have anxiety about labour and birth during pregnancy. If you are having worries or fears, talking about them is usually the best way to ease your anxiety.

 

I would love to hear what is making you anxious about giving birth, or what did! You can comment below or on our Facebook.

You can find the first 3 instalments of our Anxiety During Pregnancy Series here.

Anxiety During Pregnancy Part 1: The First Trimester

Anxiety During Pregnancy Part 2: Being Intimate

Anxiety During Pregnancy Part 3: Weight Gain

 

Next week we are talking about Anxiety During Pregnancy; when anxiety is more than you can handle.

If you are experiencing anxiety during your pregnancy, or postpartum journey feel free to contact me, or check out here to see how I can support you during this time.

 

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